of do i look like a girl to you?

The other day I was paying a bill that was addressed under Lancerlady's name.

After I handed the bill to the customer service officer over the counter, he asked
CSO: "So you are Mr Mary." (Let's take it that Lancerlady's name is Mary.)
* Lancerlord blur. Pause for a while. Trying to re-wire brain *
Lancerlord: "No that's my wife's name."
CSO: "Oh ya, Mary Chio Char Bor." (Let's take it that Lancerlady's full name.)

Hello? Bak Chew Tak Stamp. Do I look like a girl to you? And I swear Lancerlady's name is clearly clearly a lady's name. Put both English and Chinese names together, so very obvious is a female name. Unless I chop off my....